| |
| |
|
Positive Attitude Information |
|
|
|
Creating an Emotional Retreat
Emotions have the tendency to take over our actions and reactions, despite the fact we prefer to claim otherwise. Society often sees emotions as a sign of weakness, so we became used to putting them away and try to focus on the logical aspects more and more. But no matter how strict and rational you desire to be, you will always be a human being, instead of a robot, and so you will always have feelings. Positive emotions are a life long goal for some of us. What is more essential, in the long term: how much money you made during your life or how many times you had a good time? Nevertheless, people are inclined to put their positive emotions in the dark shadow of their negative feelings. This is one of the most prominent problems we come across during our lives. There is no definative gameplan to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with positive ones. It just doesn't work that way. As a kid, if your goldfish dies, you would be very sad. Your parents will likely buy you another goldfish, but the sorrow still takes months to go away. Things get even more serious with adults. A fight with your mate the night before will cloud your whole day. You will go to work angry, tired, with your mind wandering. Then you will go home with an even worse mood. On the way from work towards home you won't be able to appreciate the sun shining and you won't be tempted to stop at the corner store and get your favorite ice cream. All that because that one negative thought is contaminating the way you perceive the reality around you. At this point you will feel that locating a safe place to relax your mind would do wonders. And that place is actually easy to get to. It could be an actual location or an imaginary place. The best idea is to totally submerge yourself in it. Let's say you have a problem on your mind and it just won't go away. Go bowling! You don't know how to bowl, you say? No problem, go out and try it! Get caught up in the game, think about those silly looking shoes, choose a favorite ball, play around with new ways to throw and so on. Your mind will suddenly move from the negative thoughts that owned your last hours or days and start processing a totally new type of information. A safe place can acquire many shapes. It can be a song, a movie, even a person. The most important thing is to permit yourself to get completely involved with this new activity. You can still get flashes of the problem every now and then - dismiss them and get even more involved in what you are doing. When the bowling game, the song, the movie or the conversation ends you will have a rather abrupt return to your problems. You will likely feel depressed and want to go back to the safe place. Don't do that. The safe place lives only as a helping hand, not as a solution to all of your problems. It is there to help you relax your mind, for a few minutes or hours. This is a critical stage in your solution to what is eating at you. You will return from your safe place with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence that any matter can be solved. This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your fighting energy and allow you to solve even the most difficult problems. Michael Nelson is a professional Self Improvement Consultant. You are welcome to take his Free Self Help Course which is designed to impact your life by boosting your natural Charisma.
MORE RESOURCES:
Google News |
|
|
|
RELATED ARTICLES
Success, the Only Option One often hears people say they can't sketch because they don't have 'the talent' even to draw a straight line. When was it somebody told you "Oh, I can't play the piano; I'm such a klutz!"?Such negative programming of the mind often comes from judgmental parents, teachers, relatives or peers. Find Your Inner Strength to Tackle Any Challenge Everyone faces challenges during their life, from suffering the death of a loved one to being laid off from a job. But the challenges themselves aren't holding you back; rather, it's how you react to the challenges that determine your ultimate success and happiness. Turning Fear Into Power How would your life shift if you moved into what you feared not away from it, if you moved into the future with controlled abandon -think about it! One of the things I know from working with people for close to two decades and from my own development is that - things change. And yet how many people say they hate change. Positive Things To Do For Yourself Being a mom can take a toll on your body, your mind, and your soul. I know I am a mom to 3 wonderful but hyper boys ages 11, 9 and 3 and there are days where I really need to take a break from everything that goes on around me. Whats On Your Shift List? The most happy and successful people on earth have a personal Shift List. They probably don't call it by that name, but they have one. In A Slump?, Rejoice I Say, Rejoice! Yea, I know.. Get Out of Your Way! We hear a lot these days about accepting responsibility for our actions and it is about time we did. Time is out for casting blame and pointing righteous fingers at others to cover up for our own shortcomings and acting out behaviors. Reality Exposed Did you know that our thoughts may be influencing our reality and lives? Have you ever seen a movie called 'What the Bleep Do We Know!?'.Interestingly, there is a part in the movie about how different emotional states affect water molecules and cause them to form patterns. Learning From Life Do you ever find yourself thinking, "Life has taught me some tough lessons, and the scars do not heal easily."? This article can help you learn valuable lessons from the past, instead of allowing the past to determine your future. Universal Thought Systems Language #3 Before we are able to use the Universal Thought System in a positive expansive manner, we must learn to use certain words in our language more effectively. The prime characteristic of the Universal Thought System is its consistency. Rebuild Those Plans Byron and I started our first business full of enthusiasm and energy. The business was a seminar business with a focus on self-development. Star Wars the POSITIVE Effect ! In many ways the Star War movies are simply a reflection of everyday life on planet Earth.Battles with inner conflict, jealousy, love, hate, passion, desire, laughter, drama, action, achieving goals, villains, friendship, success and failure. Today, A Wonderful Day Believe me, today is the most wonderful day of your life! You live in today; drink, dine, walk, talk, work and play today. Living today is not enough, make it a wonderful day for you. Let Go of Resentment Maureen worked in an office with twenty other people, processing checks. She didn't particularly like her job, but she didn't particularly dislike it either. Taking Responsibility for Yourself This week I happened to catch a few minutes of a popular talk show on television, and the topic was confessions. A young man was confessing to his girlfriend of 5 years that he had cheated on her with her best friend. My Sunshine "You Are My Sunshine My Only Sunshine You Make Me Happy When Skies Are Gray"(I remember this song from my childhood)"You Never Know, Dear, How Much I Love You Please, Don't Take My Sunshine Away"And, doesn't that insinuate someone or something makes you happy? So, from a young age, we were fed the ideas it took something outside ourselves to see sunshine and be happy. We didn't just receive that message from one song. Stream of Consciousness One thing that is important to realize about thought: one thought always leads to another. It is impossible to have one thought without having another one. Reframing Rejection So people will reject us no matter how good we look, no matter how successful we are, and no matter how giving we are. If we were to become even nicer, and even more spiritually aware they would still reject us so it is a pointless battle trying to win over everyone. The Map Is Not the Territory Just in an average day we can experience many things that we take as good or bad. In this article I want to take a look at what takes a place in the human mind as it relates to our daily affairs. Mind Power - Fact or Fiction? Prove It For Yourself In The Next 7 Minutes - Truly Awesome! Who are you?We all know that we are composed of atoms. But what are atoms made of?Physicists tell us that atoms are composed of electrons, protons and neutrons.
|
| home | site map |
| © 2006 |
